Safety

If in an argument, go to a safe place where there is an exit.
Avoid rooms where there is no exit (bathrooms) and avoid rooms with weapons (kitchens).

Do not try to reason or argue with the abuser.
You cannot change their behavior.

Let trusted friends and neighbors know about the situation.
Create a code word or visual sign for when you need their help. Give clear instructions on who you want them to contact if a crisis occurs, including law enforcement.

Keep money with you at all times in case you have to suddenly leave.

Memorize important phone numbers.

Keep important papers accessible.
Social security cards, birth certificates, etc.

When parking, back your car into the driveway and keep it fueled.
If possible, leave the driver’s door unlocked and lock the rest of the doors for quick access.

If violence cannot be avoided, make yourself as small as possible.
Go to a corner, curl in a ball with your arms around each side of your head and fingers entwined, protecting your head, face and stomach.

Plan on what to do if the abuser finds out about your plan.

Keep your location a secret.

Use a post office box rather than your new home address.

You may need to switch the school your child attends. 

Get a prepaid (“burner”) phone or an unlisted landline.
So the abuser cannot track you from apps like Find my iPhone or other hardware they might have installed without your knowledge.

Cancel your old bank accounts and credit cards, especially if you shared them with your abuser.
Use a different bank when you open new accounts.

Change your routine if you are staying in the same area.
Take a new route to work, avoid places where the abuser might know to locate you, change any appointments they knows about, and find new places to shop and run errands.

Keep a cell phone on you at all times and be ready to call 911 if needed.

Consider getting a restraining order or protective order (link to TPO services page) against your abusive partner.
Do not feel falsely secure with a restraining order. Your stalker or abuser may ignore it.

If you are a victim of stalking or abuse, research how restraining orders are enforced where you live. Find out if the abuser will be given a citation or if they will be taken to jail. If the police only gives the abuser a citation, the abuser might feel the police will do nothing and feels safe pursuing you, or an abuser might become angry.